Ever since Mr. West’s infamous rudeness to America’s sweetheart at the 2009 VMAs, America has had beef with Kanye.

More than beef–hatred, really. We discovered that Kanye was a conceited asshole who places his opinion above all else, disregarding what impact he may have on young, innocent country singers. It didn’t help that Taylor Swift is presently America’s little sister.

Nothing I have ever seen or heard from or about Kanye contradicts this line of thinking. I truly believe he is a conceited asshole who couldn’t care less about anyone else, but so what? By making him Pop Public Enemy #1, we’re implying that our society is moral enough to condemn someone for simply being an asshole.

Have we forgotten Chris Brown? Apparently so. A short six months after he was charged with felony assault, “I can Transform Ya” was on constant blast through the airwaves. Mind you, this was the same month in which his insincere, PR firm induced Larry King apology occurred.

And don’t forget the plethora of R. Kelly accusations. Granted, he was never officially charged with anything, which I can only attribute to a damn good lawyer. Seriously, how much photographic and video proof does a court (or a society) need before they can safely assume that maybe this man is sleeping with underage girls?

I could of course also go into the public endangerment that stars such as Lindsay Lohan have often dabbled in. Nobody even bats an eye at these offenses anymore, and these people are immediately forgiven as soon as they finish whatever court sentence was deemed necessary. In my opinion, however, these people are too busy destroying themselves from the inside out to even notice any public scorn that could come their way.

I also won’t get into the infinite forgiveness provided to sports stars. My thoughts on Michael Vick alone constitute an entire other blog post.

I will mention, however, that in the year leading up to the epic Taylor Swift incident, Kanye lost both his mother and his fiance. I’ve lost friends and I’ve been through some bad break-ups, but never something as extreme as either of those incidents. I don’t see how a person can go through such tragic events and not be changed. This isn’t an excuse for his actions, but it’s something to consider.

It’s something to consider when the next Chris Brown  or R. Kelly song comes on the radio or when you’re in line at the grocery store, scanning the tabloids to see who is screwing up and how. Because while not everyone knows someone who has gotten multiple DUIs or slept with a 14 year-old or beat up their girlfriend, everyone knows a jerk, and that’s why Kanye is so easy to hate.